I often hear it said that Empaths “absorb” other people moods, energy, and feelings. That statement, in itself, may be true - for SOME Empaths. But you don’t have too. You have a choice.
Empaths sense extra information from the people and places around them. That’s how we are wired. We don't’ have to try to do it - it just happens.
As children, this may have caused quite a problem for us. With our inability to discern information with our cognitive brains, which doesn’t fully develop until the ages of about 24 to 25, we may have felt sick, overwhelmed, and scared throughout our childhood. To top it off, most of us didn’t have parents or caretakers that helped us manage this energy when we felt it. So we ended up ‘absorbing’ the information by thinking it was ours, and not realizing that we were only noticing things around us.
So now that we’re adults, it’s time for us to make sure we are no longer absorbing the energy of people and places. We need to learn to discern what is, in fact, our energy, and what belongs to others.
I have had a great opportunity as a part-time cashier in a natural grocery store. In my check-out lane, I have a constant flow of energy from the general public, as you can imagine.
I have learned that I am a physical Empath, so I feel the energy that I notice in my body, often as a symptom of some kind. So a person may enter my lane to pay for groceries, and I suddenly feel nauseous. I used to get immediate anxiety because I thought that it was my symptom. I would then create a story around it - it must be something I ate, am I going to have to go home sick, what is wrong with me?
I often notice that I feel the energy of others when they are unaware of how they are feeling. When my daughter was in high school, a generally stressful time for most teens, she would plop in the car after school, and I would immediately feel a fuzzy head and loads of stress in the form of anxiety and overwhelm. I began to realize that my body was just interpreting her energy that way.
As I’ve learned to discern energy, I now say to myself “oh, I am noticing that I feel nauseous suddenly. I must be picking up on the energy of this customer.” Typically the sensation dissipates when I say that, confirming to me that I am picking up on another person’s symptom. For me, this can come in the form a physical symptom, or an emotional symptom; I can feel a sudden sadness or anxiety I didn’t have before and I don’t have a situation that provoked it.
Does that happen to you? In what ways?
No matter how you intuit energy as an Empath, there are some basic strategies that you can learn for yourself to feel grounded and healthy as you go through your day.
(say this 1,000 time while looking in the mirror):
"I completely embrace myself as an Empath.
I easily know what energy is mine, and what I am sensing.
I easily and effortlessly set firm boundaries.
I have compassion for another's energy as I know it is that person's journey.
I learn how to be with people, in many places, and stay rested, strong, and balanced.
I love me."
B U S T E D ! When we absorb energy from people and places, it is not a healthy response to energy. We need to learn to discern what is ours and what is not, and that takes a superstructure along with practice, practice, practice.
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