Empaths often describe feeling fragile and weak as they can get zinged around by the every day energies of people and places. They can react easily to foods and beverages even though they believe they eat healthily. They are often sought out by others as they are good listeners and know how to create a good experience for others.  ​They can pick up on other's emotions and struggles, often thinking that the sensations they are feeling are theirs instead of realizing they are picking up information from the person across from them, in the next town or across the country. 

Since Empaths feel more, see more and intuit more, they can feel exhausted by the end of each day.

Empaths need a superstructure to stay grounded, peaceful, and balanced. That's why a Primal Health lifestyle is so important for Empaths.  It's a way of life based on our ancestors - that's why it's call Primal. It is grounded in selecting foods, activities, and movement that is perfect for our bodies, and is designed to keep our systems working optimally.

I believe our ancestors used intuition throughout each day without judgement or shame. In fact, their survival depended on it. They had to know where the danger lay. If they didn't sense that saber tooth tiger in the next field or valley and chose another path, they were in a sprint for their lives. If they chose the wrong plant to eat or consumed a sick animal, they could wind up dead. They didn't have doctors to run to or hospitals to save their lives. They had to rely on their gut instincts, their intuition, to keep them alive and strong.

Here are a few tips to get you started on the Primal journey, which will leave you feeling strong and nourished:
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1. Get outside. Breathe in nature. This syncs your system, or entrains you, with nature which is calming and at a slower pace than most other aspects of life.
2. Eat whole foods. And really listen to what your body says about what you eat. Sugars, grains, caffeine, fake foods - they over-excite the body and confuse it. 
3. Slow life down. Minimize stress. Don't try to fit too many things into a day. Listen to what pace your body needs day-by-day and follow it. Some days you may be able to get 5,000 things done (or it feels that way), and other days you may get a couple done, then spend time playing and relaxing. 
4. Balance your food nutrition with minerals and supplements that keep you grounded and nourished. Magnesium is very calming and the general consensus in the U.S. health field is that most of us don't get enough magnesium and minerals because our farming soils have been depleted due to our farming practices. So add mineral drops to your water. Take mineral baths. Use magnesium lotions. Sprinkle Himalayan or Celtic sea salt while cooking and eating. Find creative, easy ways to put this in your routine.
5. Stay active to release the built up stress. Empaths notice more, so they have the tendency to feel more stress. And typically Empaths are slow oxidizers so we can be prone to fatigue, cravings, and low blood sugar. We may crave caffeine, sweets or carbohydrate rich foods to give us energy. Yet this is only a short term effect and will actually plummet our energy in an hour or two. Getting out for a brisk walk daily, playing disc golf, going for a jog, playing frisbee, sprinting, swimming, cycling and a host of other fun activities where you move is a much better way to detox stress and create energy. 
6. Un-isolate! Get out with friends and have some fun. Build a tribe that feels good and wholesome to you. 
7. Make yourself the priority. Most Empaths put themselves last all day, so make a conscious effort to put yourself first, and release any guilt associated with doing it. It's like putting our oxygen mask on first so that we can be there for others in a fulfilled and strong way.
8. Take time each day to be by yourself, in your own energy, so that you don't feel like you have to listen to, take care of, or sit in anyone else's energy. Empaths gain balance, strength and energy from regular and dependable alone time.

Have you amped up your self care until you're feeling strong? How?

It’s really important for Empaths to have a strong superstructure of self-care. It should be a system of many daily habits designed BY you just FOR you. The basic superstructure should be there, incorporated into your routine at an early age as possible, and updated as you go through life.

And when we take the time and commitment to feel strong and balanced, it pays off. We can walk through our lives, our families, our grocery stores and farmer's markets knowing we are strong. We stay balanced. We know how to be there for others, but, more importantly, we are there for ourselves first.

​I often hear it said that Empaths “absorb” other people moods, energy, and feelings. That statement, in itself, may be true - for SOME Empaths. But you don’t have too. You have a choice.

Empaths sense extra information from the people and places around them. That’s how we are wired. We don't’ have to try to do it - it just happens.

As children, this may have caused quite a problem for us. With our inability to discern information with our cognitive brains, which doesn’t fully develop until the ages of about 24 to 25, we may have felt sick, overwhelmed, and scared throughout our childhood. To top it off, most of us didn’t have parents or caretakers that helped us manage this energy when we felt it. So we ended up ‘absorbing’ the information by thinking it was ours, and not realizing that we were only noticing things around us.

So now that we’re adults, it’s time for us to make sure we are no longer absorbing the energy of people and places. We need to learn to discern what is, in fact, our energy, and what belongs to others.

I have had a great opportunity as a part-time cashier in a natural grocery store.  In my check-out lane, I have a constant flow of energy from the general public, as you can imagine. 

I have learned that I am a physical Empath, so I feel the energy that I notice in my body, often as a symptom of some kind. So a person may enter my lane to pay for groceries, and I suddenly feel nauseous. I used to get immediate anxiety because I thought that it was my symptom. I would then create a story around it - it must be something I ate, am I going to have to go home sick, what is wrong with me?

I often notice that I feel the energy of others when they are unaware of how they are feeling. When my daughter was in high school, a generally stressful time for most teens, she would plop in the car after school, and I would immediately feel a fuzzy head and loads of stress in the form of anxiety and overwhelm. I began to realize that my body was just interpreting her energy that way. 

As I’ve learned to discern energy, I now say to myself “oh, I am noticing that I feel nauseous suddenly. I must be picking up on the energy of this customer.” Typically the sensation dissipates when I say that, confirming to me that I am picking up on another person’s symptom. For me, this can come in the form a physical symptom, or an emotional symptom; I can feel a sudden sadness or anxiety I didn’t have before and I don’t have a situation that provoked it. 

Does that happen to you? In what ways?

No matter how you intuit energy as an Empath, there are some basic strategies that you can learn for yourself to feel grounded and healthy as you go through your day.

1. Ask yourself, “Is this mine?” particularly if it comes on suddenly when you enter a room or get a phone call from someone.
2. Treat the sensation as feedback or information. Avoid creating a personal scenario around the symptom that will have you thinking it’s yours. If it is yours, you will know soon enough.
3. Take a deep, slow belly breath, concentrating on the exhale. Repeat this a few times to rebalance your body.
4. Make sure you have a superstructure of care in place. 
5. Eat whole foods (proteins, vegetables and an occasional fruit). Processed foods contain a lot of fake ingredients that confuse our bodies and make it harder to stay grounded and feeling good.
6. Avoid grains and sugars in any form, as they are inflammatory and stimulate our bodies in ways that make it harder to stay grounded around energy.
7. Avoid caffeine and stimulants because they are just plain ungrounding!
8. Practice energy balancing techniques which fortify your energy and clear away energy you may have taken on as your own.
9. Exercise with exertion every day. The deeper breathing and movement will help you stay grounded and balanced, releasing any stress you happen to inadvertently absorb as your own.
10. Get plenty of rest and sleep. Without enough sleep, the chances of you staying grounded go way down.
11. Stay humorous. We may end up realizing we absorbed energy that wasn’t ours later than we had hoped. And we can take things oh so seriously. Try to have a little humor about being an Empath as that will keep us feeling more balanced.

​So let's BUST Mammoth Myth #3. WE ATTRACT NARCISSISTS.

What the heck is a narcissist? And why are we so good at attracting them?

Here are some definitions of narcissists and narcissism.

Dictionary.com: ”a person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish.”
UrbanDictionary.com: “A person with no soul. The only thing bigger than their inflated ego is the void that they demand others to fill.”
Merriam-Webster.com: "an individual showing symptoms of or suffering from narcissism:
a : an extremely self-centered person who has an exaggerated sense of self-importance
b : a person who is overly concerned with his or her physical appearance"
Wikipedia: "Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water."

Just from reading these definitions, I get the impression of a really out-of-balance person. Like their cup must feel so empty that they have to fill it with self-centeredness and the pursuit of gratification. Like they are so concerned about how they look they can't function without doing something about it. I like the Green Narcissus - I can just see him falling  in love with his own reflection.

I like to think of narcissists like they have a severe toothache - everyday, all day.

When I most recently had a failing molar, it hurt like hell. Since I like to work with my body to give it what it needs, I worked on seeing if I could heal it without prescription drugs and a root canal. This took some time. I went through a week of severe pain, my jawline swollen and sore. I would’ve addressed it sooner, but I was traveling out of town for business. 

When I had that toothache, it was really hard for me to think of anything else. Even while I sat in my business meetings, which were informative, useful, and with fantastic colleagues, I felt that thing deeply! It kept me up at night, and my whole focus landed on healing that pain.

Take a narcissist. They are in pain. They are so much in pain that they can only think of themselves. And it’s not healthy or normal for a human to be so focused on themselves and the pursuit of themselves that they can’t empathize with others. Their pain is emotional, and it’s a huge toothache.

And get this, it’s not so easy to fix as my failing molar. That tooth took a morning appointment for a root canal, and some antibiotics, a clearing for adverse effects (that’s another blog!) and shots of kefir to keep my body balanced with taking antibiotics. And many supporting "I" messages.

We Empaths are wonderful, aren’t we? We listen carefully, feel the pain of others - often so deeply we can feel their symptoms in our bodies, and put our needs last. In fact, we have to work at our self care because it’s automatic for us to put ourselves last. 

Then we’re walking down the street somewhere and we run into a narcissist. They’re hurting. They need to feel important, to have others listen and tell them how important they are. They thrive on being put first. And here we come along!  It’s the perfect match.

So as they go through life doing the best that they can, they may attract Empaths. 

As an Empath, I have great compassion for narcissists. Don’t we all? We Empaths naturally have empathy, a characteristic lacking in narcissists.

And to heal, and I believe anyone can heal, narcissists need to come to terms with that deep pain, that hole in their soul. And many of them chose not to do it.

So how do we avoid that person as they walk down the street?

Here are some tips:

1. Ask yourself: How balanced am I if I am attracting narcissists? We attract our greatest learning into our closest relationships, so the work starts with you. The good news is that you can change yourself, and doing so will change your life.
2. Identify where you are off balance. I have found it helpful to work with therapists, counselors, and coaches to help me identify what needs healing. Consider hiring someone to help you.
3. Firm up your emotional boundaries. Especially If the narcissists in your life are parents, siblings, or other relatives, this becomes so important. And that’s probably why you chose this family - to have a fantastic learning experience (sometimes learning sucks until we get the lesson learned and the resulting bliss!) Working with a strongly out of balance family often means getting out of their physical space and having no contact until you heal so that you can regain your boundaries. 
4. Don’t go all in to any relationship all at once (and that includes sex!) When you meet someone, especially if you grew up with narcissists, your tendency will be to go right in and take care of them. It will feel natural, and you’ll be smacking yourself on the head going “How did I do this again?” We Empaths must work at knowing where our sensations/pain/symptoms stop and another person’s starts. We are in danger of becoming enmeshed easily. Keep those boundaries steadfast as you explore new relationships.
5. Love yourself no matter what. You are doing the best you can. If you find yourself in another narcissistic relationship, it’s more opportunity for learning. So don’t hate on yourself.
6. Observe the narcissist in an inquisitive way without judgement. Take a step back emotionally and understand how they put themselves first. How do they seek attention? How do they not care what others’ feel or want? Is there anyway that you can move in their direction of putting yourself first, caring more about yourself, and letting others have their own drama? 

By the way, Empaths are so selfless that we fear we may become too self-centered if we put ourselves first. In my experience, healthy, balanced Empaths know how to put themselves first, and care about themselves in loving ways! They don't become narcissistic. Instead, they have a personalized superstructure to make them enjoyable, loving people on the planet. 

Mammoth Myth B U S T E D ! Empaths attract narcissists only when they have emotional work to do! So let’s get to it!

Energy Vampires Drain our Energy as Empaths. That’s the common belief in the Empath community. I’m noticing this phrase, Energy Vampire, increase in use in the news, in books, and on social media.

Let’s take a look at what the definition of an Energy Vampire is.

Dictionary.com refers to an Energy Vampire as a noun meaning. “the electric power consumed by electronic appliances while they are switched off or in a standby mode; also called standby power, [ phantom load ] A very common energy vampire is a power adapter which has no power-off switch.”

I didn’t expect to find that definition when I looked up an Energy Empath. That doesn’t even refer to a person, but an appliance. So I looked further.

The definition by Urban Dictionary states: “A person who boosts his/her own energy by taking energy from others by means of an argument, belittlement, criticism or other one-sided conversation.”

This definition is what I believe most people using the term Energy Empath refer to.

I can understand where the term Energy Vampire comes from. It’s catchy, strong, and sums up the process of one sensitive person feeling drained by someone else in only 2 succinct words.

I do agree that people with certain attributes can feel draining to others, especially we Empaths who feel more deeply, see more details, and intuit more as we go through each day. This ability to do so much more can be draining in and of itself, even when we’re not with an Energy Vampire.

I don’t like the term Energy Vampire for a few reasons. It’s very negative. It’s blaming of others - that somehow they suck or steal energy from us without our permission - like an attack. And most of the advice is to run in the other direction from them, especially if you’re an Empath. That often doesn’t work because we wouldn’t even be around them if we truly had a choice. Often it’s a family member, relative, co-worker or another person in a position of authority or importance in our lives.

I’d like to refer to another that feels draining to us as an Energy Sponge. I believe they are Sponges because they challenge us to set better boundaries, communicate more clearly, and stand up for our sensitive selves. Without the strong effects of an Energy Sponge, many of us would not develop systems that keep us strong and balanced.

There are several types of Energy Sponges that I have encountered. I’ll share what I’ve noticed, and then we’ll look at learning opportunities for dealing with them.

• Non-stop talkers. You know those people that do all the talking and you can’t get a word in edgewise. Even when you do speak loudly over them, they will cut you off mid-sentence and go into what they need to say. Of course that can feel draining.

• Drama Seekers. These are the men and women that seem to over-react to everything. Something happens and they go down the worst possible path. Their teen is an hour late for curfew and they’re dying in a hospital. The stock market plummets a few hundred points and they won’t ever be able to retire. Listening to anyone with these kinds of worries and fears can be exhausting if we let it be.

• One-sided conversations. The Non-stop talkers and Drama Seekers are usually part of the one-sided conversation crowd. We are polite, empathic, caring Empaths will often let almost anyone else talk about himself or herself. It’s often a part of our nature. Yet if we don’t feel like we can be an interactive part of the conversation, we may spend the entire time feeling bad about the communication.

• Narcissists. The world revolves around the narcissist in that person’s mind. They think they are very important and want constant praise. How exhausting that can be.

These are just a few of the types of Energy Sponges in the world. And the reality is, being around them can become unpleasant. And if we let it go on, it can be exhausting and draining. These Energy Sponges are out of balance. Many of them have a hole in their soul that they are trying to cover up, fill, ignore or create drama around so they don’t have to deal with the agony of their condition. So they develop these crazy, hard to handle characteristics to keep others away and to distract themselves.

But here’s the thing. No one can change someone else. We may have to work with this person. We may chose to see her or him over the holidays because she or he is with others we want to spend time with. They may be a neighbor, colleague, or friend of our partner or spouse. We may want so badly to say this or show them that so that they will see what they’ll doing and want to change so that we’ll feel better. Yet most people won’t do that. People may change, but it’s because they want to when they see a need and a benefit.

Here’s the rub. We as Empaths are responsible for changing ourselves. If we are feeling drained by other people, no matter what label we attach to their personality, than we are out of balance. That is what we need to focus on energies on so that we don’t leave work, a party, or any outing feeling totally depleted and depressed. We need to get to a place where we can walk through the world and stay in tact and balanced no matter who we encounter.

​I’ve always lived by the rule that if I want someone else to change, I need to change myself. Because when I change, the person I am relating too must somehow change - even if it’s just to leave because being around the new me doesn't feel comfortable anymore.
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So how can you become more balanced as an Empath so that you don’t feel drained when you are around unbalanced people?

1. Accept yourself and your sensitivities. If you know you won’t do well listening to a particular person for very long, set limits. Perhaps you go to say Hi and they start in on their latest drama or everything they’ve done for the last 6 months. You can’t get a word in edgewise. Notice what is stopping you for telling them how you feel. What inside of you is stopping you from moving on to someone more pleasant to talk to? Find a way to set a limit and move on, even if you interrupt them and say “It’s been nice to see you. I want to go over and chat with Jason now.” Your power is in the present moment, as Louise Hay would say.
2. Have compassion for them. They are hurting and most likely have no idea how hard they can be to socialize with. I often look at someone who is so out of touch as having a toothache. When we have a toothache, we are in so much pain it is really hard for us to truly listen to another. Many people have chronic “toothaches.” I can’t fix a toothache of theirs, but I can sure understand how hard that must be.
3. Realize it is not your problem to fix. End the conversation when you want to. And watch out for the guilt and self-judgments that arise. Forgive yourself for wanting to be nice to the point of self-sacrifice and draining your energy.
4. Speak your truth using I words. We learn in therapy that it’s important to use “I” when you’re discussing things with your spouse. It presents the information in a less charged way. Think about how to do this. “I’ll talk to you another time. I’m going to the bathroom. I’m going to chat with Jamie. Etc.
5. Learn from less sensitive friends. I have a close friend that will end a conversation abruptly and either leave or go talk to someone else. I use to feel that it was rude the way he ended conversations. Yet he is well liked and often the life of a party. So as an Empath, I realized that I judge myself if I don’t continue to listen to someone, even when I don’t want to. This friend has helped me to realize it’s okay to end things and walk away.
6. Have a strategy before you go. Just like you’d prepare appropriate foods for sensitivities before you go to a meal, be prepared with ways to handle difficult people. Look at these like tools you can use to accomplish what you want.

RESOURCES:
There are a couple of must-reads that I use for reference.

1. In Dr. Judith Orloff’s book, The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, she presents many types of Protections Strategies and rebalancing tools that you can use. She’s a psychiatrist and an Empath that shares her learnings and practices of herself and patients. It’s a must read.
2. Another must read is Jean Haner’s Clear Home, Clear Heart: Learn to Clear the Energy of People & Places. Jean teaches you how a simple way to retrain your body and system so that it isn’t taking on the energy of people and places and remaining balanced. It’s based on Chinese Medicine that has been around for over 12,000 years.​

You are a powerful Empath with many choices. Your sensitivities increase your power because they increase your information. If we Empaths can get out of running from situations, avoiding Energy Sponges, and instead, approach people and place from a point of power and balance, we can walk through the world feel self-assured and content.

So let's BUST Mammoth Myth #2. ENERGY VAMPIRES ARE NOT OUT TO GET US.   They need our compassion, and we can practice staying balanced and centered while we are with them.
B U S T E D !

We Empaths are a rare breed. We feel more, see more, and intuit more than the average bear. We've always known this, and the research by Dr. Elaine Aaron has begun to confirm this sensitivity through science. This ability comes naturally to us, and it is something that we are born with.

We receive information in many ways. Not only do we receive the "push" notifications of life through e-mails, TV ads, texts, billboards, news, etc., we also naturally notice a million little details through our senses - visually, physically, auditory, in dreams, intuition, and more. 

With all this information available to us 24/7, and no guidelines on how to handle the barrage we sense each day, we can live life feeling overwhelmed, confused, alone, and full of anxiety. We feel like outcasts, misfits, and overly-sensitive people. Why do we have to notice so much more? It feels like a curse, not a gift.

Thinking this way about ourselves is not a way to live each day. STOP IT! 

Every single Empath can and should feel secure in himself or herself, walking through life relaxed, happy, healthy, and powerful as we feel more, see more, and intuit more.  We remain balanced. It is the way life is meant to be.  

I believe there are 4 mammoth myths that we Empaths hold onto that are keeping us from feeling relaxed, happy, healthy, and powerful as we walk through life.

So let's look at what's getting in our way.

MAMMOTH MYTH #1:
SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH ME

Yes, we've all heard before that we are "too sensitive," and "need a thicker skin." Perhaps we've been called cry babies by well-meaning people that don't know how to handle our sensitivities. Sometimes we may have been called possessed, or evil, because our insights deeply scared those closest to us. Or our closest friends may think our ideas are insane. 

Most of us heard references to negative attributes from childhood, as far back as we can remember. It may have been from a parent, a relative, or a teacher, or a combination of all of them. And as adults, we've most likely continued to hear it from friends, peers, colleagues and partners or spouses. But that's not the worst part.

The majority of we Empaths believe, at our core, that something IS WRONG with us. This is the worst part - that we've adapted this negative and limiting belief about ourselves. We ARE too sensitive. We DO NEED a thicker skin to be in the world. We SHOULDN'T CRY about this situation. We SHOULDN"T FEEL this way. How can we think SO NEGATIVELY that about this situation. The list goes on. We're affirming, on  a daily basis, that something is wrong with us because we've heard it all our lives.  

So this limiting belief keeps showing up. We come across it at work. At home. Everywhere we go. We believe it. And we don't believe our intuition, our knowingness, easily. Instead, we keep recreating the condescending voices in our heads from our childhoods. We don't feel accepted or loved for who we are - that sensitive, caring, deeply insightful person who knows so well how to take care of others.

INTUITIVE HITS
When I was 25 years old, I loved to disco dance and I listened to a radio station on the east coast that had my favorite dance music. As part of a bumper sticker contest this station has on July 4th in DC, I heard them call out my license plate number and won a Nikon EM Camera. I was elated! And I also knew that the grand prize was a trip to Hawaii for 2.

I KNEW without a doubt that I was going to win that trip.

So I asked my best girlfriend if she would go with me. She assumed I was insane, yet she said she would.

So when the day came when I called her a few weeks later with the news that I had won the trip, she almost fainted! 

I have learned to identify this knowingness as an "intuitive hit." The information came to me easily and effortlessly, and it's something I just knew to be true. I didn't doubt it, it just was. So I was not at all surprised that I won.

When I asked the radio station how they picked my name, the representative told me that he had 116 winners eligible for the grand prize trip to Hawaii. He walked into the radio booth and threw 116 pieces of paper with contestant winners written on them into the air. The DJ grabbed mine. 

OUR WORK
It's our job as Empaths to really know ourselves inside and out so that, as we gather information from the world and events around us, we can support ourselves and decide appropriately what to do with the information. This enables us to realize that something is NOT wrong with us. We are having an "intuitive hit" that may or may not be understood by those around us. We become mature enough, and solid enough in our own selves, that we don't expect to get approval and permission from those around us. We know what we know to be real for us. And we can decide if, when and with whom we want to share this information.

It's also our job as Empaths to fully embrace ourselves for our Superpowers. Accepting ourselves is an inside out job. If we're looking out to the masses to get approval and permission, we are looking in the wrong place.  Intuition comes from inside. 

Now I'm not saying that we shouldn't get help in embracing our unique abilities. I believe that having a counselor, therapist, coach, confidante, whatever we need to support us can be a vital part of living our lives. But if we are expecting those around us to accept us and they can't, that doesn't work for anyone - us or them. There are people out there that can accept us. The irony is - we need to accept ourselves FIRST.

So let's BUST Mammoth Myth #1. NOTHING is wrong with us.   B U S T E D !

Do you think you're an Empath or Highly Sensitive? Or Both? 

If you are a Highly Sensitive Empath, perhaps you:

• Feel anxiety every-time you walk into a shopping mall
• Know that your body reacts more deeply and adversely when you go to see your favorite band in concert
• Can tell that a room feels "off," like something stressful happened there
• Notice that many foods you eat hurt your stomach, cause acne, or give you other symptoms
• Connect with animals easily and more deeply than others
• Can feel Mother Earth's distress
• See and can talk to people that have crossed over
• Notice many details that others miss
• Can be easily hurt by what others say or do
• Burst out crying for apparently no reason
• Feel a chill run through your body when someone else cuts a finger
• Can tap into another's emotion when they're 3000 miles away
• Have hunches about events and people that turn out to be true later on
• Experience dreams that give you real-life information

This is just a small list of the many ways that you can experience being a Highly Sensitive Empath.

It's exciting to see so many people becoming more aware of their sensitivities and beginning to love and embrace these qualities. In a world that is heavy in logic and brainy people, we have discounted our intuitive sides for way too long.

Back in the hunter-gatherer days, there is no way that our ancestors would've wanted to wander into a field to come upon a saber toothed tiger. That would have been a life-ending event. They used intuition and sensing to keep themselves safe and out of harms way. It wasn't judged as weird when they could sense something unseen; why is it weird now?

Yet with the event of industrialization, we have put our intuition and sensing on the back burner. Many of us have disowned it.

Until now. Now that we are enjoying the modern conveniences of electricity, machinery and equipment, medicine and surgeries, and more, and don't have to spend much of our day looking for and harvesting food, or building shelter, perhaps it's time we bring this important skill back into the forefront of our lives. And we will no longer be burned at the stake or stoned to death.

​I am concerned about how most Highly Sensitive Empaths judge themselves, and how physically unwell they feel on a daily basis. As they come across the energy of others and daily life, it feels too overwhelming and uncomfortable. It's led to isolation and poor health.

I realize that we Highly Sensitive Empaths need time to recharge ourselves by being by ourselves. I think this is a healthy way to revitalize. 

I'm talking about how many of us will feel like we can't go to a party or to a shopping mall without feeling drained and overwhelmed, exhausted from the experience. So we stop going because we don't know what else to do, and our self-esteem may begin to plummet. Or we struggle with intimate relationships, and come to the  conclusion that we are too sensitive to live with anyone else. We choose isolation and loneliness instead of finding other strategies.

We are meant to be part of a tribe. To belong. To feel loved and nurtured and supported. To be comfortable and safe with who we are and what we have to offer the world, and our tribe.

So I'm inviting all of you to find your Warrior Empath. This is the Highly Sensitive Empath in you that knows how to stay strong physically, energetically, and emotionally as we venture out into the world, are with our tribes, and with our loved ones.

I can list many strategies that can help with this. After all, I coach Highly Sensitive Empaths in developing a superstructure for themselves so that they are strong and successful Warriors in their worlds.

But for this blog, I invite you to affirm that you CAN be a Warrior Empath. That you CHOOSE to be a Warrior Empath. That IT IS POSSIBLE and you will find out the path for yourself. The change starts within your mind.

I know it's possible to be a Warrior Empath, for I am doing it. I am a Highly Sensitive Physical and Emotional Empath, and I have figured out a superstructure for myself that keeps me grounded, healthy, and out in the world when I want to be. I am in a marriage with someone who has super strong energy, and I am able to live and love that person in my home. We have found strategies to make it work for both of us. I also stay physically strong and well nourished so that I feel good. 

It all begins with the thought that it is possible. So the thought I'd like to leave you with today - step into your power and become that Warrior Empath you are meant to be. Start to change your thinking. Here are some affirmations for you to begin that process.

I love myself as a Highly Sensitive Empath.
I understand my special skills, and I love all of them.
I am willing to create new thoughts about myself and 
​about my life as a Highly Sensitive Empath. 
I live in harmony and balance with everyone I know, especially myself.
I create a superstructure for myself and I recognize my body as a good friend.
I listen to what it needs, and I joyfully feed it nourishing foods and beverages. 
I exercise it in ways that are fun.  I get plenty of sleep.
I recognize my body as a wondrous and magnificent machine, and 
I feel privileged to live in it. 
I create new and wonderful relationships.
Instead of isolating myself, I choose to open up and let the love in.
I know how to handle any energy that I experience.
I am worthy of a healthy, intimate relationship with a like-minded person.
Other people respect me because I respect myself.
I am proud to be a Warrior Empath.
Developed using the Affirmations of Louise Hay​

I had the honor of being the Health Care Director for my mom at the end of her life a few months ago. What an amazing and humbling experience for me. 

She had called her eight children to visit as she prepared to transition. We came from all over the United States to spend time with her so that she could tell us stories of our childhood, and her life, and we could say our goodbyes. She lived to the age of 88, and lived actively, as it should be for everyone.

She walked everywhere, climbed stairs to the second story of her family home to get to bed each night, mowed her 1/2 acre lawn and raked the Autumn leaves at her rural home. She loved the beach and the outdoors, and played basketball at a park for her 80th birthday celebration. She rolled the trash and recycling cans up and down a hilly driveway each week, cleaned her own home, and provided all of her self-care up until the last few weeks of her life. 

Yet when it was her time to go, she intuitively knew. In fact, the medical profession didn't quite understand it. Her numbers were "good," and she could do a lot more than other patients on the hospital ward. “Ms. Anne” often set the bed alarm off as she tried to stay active. 

While Mom was in the hospital, they loaded her up with so many medications for every symptom that came her way. She at one point said the medications were going to kill her. Little did she know how right she was. The doctors were trying to stop her stomach from bleeding. So they administered ample amounts of prednisone, yet the bleeding never stopped.

At the same time, she was having a lot of skin irritations. I had brought coconut oil with me. I find it helpful, especially for older skin, as it nourishes quite well, feels good, and provides antioxidant and anti-aging properties. It also has antimicrobial and antifungal agents, as well as sun-shielding properties, and can help with peeling skin. My mom liked the feel of it and kept putting it on her skin.

When Mom requested that I get her home from the hospital to hospice care, I took her seriously. Although she had declined quite rapidly in a few weeks, hospice did not initially get approved. Having returned to California, I fought through the steps to get her home, and we had another hospice company visit her. It was then that we received hospice approval.

Mom stopped all medications except a couple for comfort. Her skin on her arms began to peel several layers, as if someone had poured buckets of hot water on her. It was raw and painful. When I asked the hospice nurse what could cause that reaction, she said long-term use of prednisone. My mom was on it for 2 weeks.  I then realized why my mother seldom took pharmaceuticals. The side-effects far outweighed the benefits for her; she spent her life finding other ways to nourish herself to health. 

So I asked the hospice nurse to apply coconut oil to her skin. The nurse informed me that using coconut oil went against the hospice doctor's orders. He prescribed vaseline and gauze on the wounds. I asked for the coconut oil to be applied first, then add the doctor recommended treatment. I was surprised that she continued to discuss this with me. Well meaning and doing her job, the nurse wanted me to know the seriousness of my request before she applied it.

Hospice is wonderful and did a fabulous job with my Mom’s end of life support! But have we gotten so off-track with pharmaceutical solutions that if we use a nutritive supplement - like coconut oil, we are violating doctor's orders? Seriously? How have we gone so wrong in our thinking and treatment of our health? Doesn't a patient have any say anymore into what she/he is called to do?

I am an advocate, a warrior, for listening to the body and doing what you are called to do, no matter what a doctor or anyone else recommends. The typical doctor may spent 10 minutes with you once a year, run tests and prescribe surgery/medication, but YOU are the best one to take the information presented, weigh all the pro's and con's, and listen to your body and your intuition to go with what you feel is best.

​Especially as Highly Sensitive Empaths, we need to honor our bodies and create a superstructure of support for what they need, even if others don't agree with us. We are in charge of our health. That’s where being a Warrior Empath comes in. We need to follow our intuition no matter what, and go against doctor’s orders if we need to. 

We all hear the benefits of meditation - how it calms the "monkey mind" and aids us in clearer and less reactive thinking. We hear how it calms the physical body as well, and gives us a fresh start to our day. It helps us sleep better, stay centered in ourselves and our truth. 

Even agencies like the National Institute of Health are looking into meditation and it's benefits, and noting what science is discovering about the benefits of a practice.  

If we consider Webster, it defines meditating as:

1. : to engage in contemplation or reflection
2. : to engage in mental exercise (such as concentration on one's breathing or repetition of a mantra) for the purpose of reaching a heightened level of spiritual awareness

The Buddhists say "meditation is a means of transforming the mind. Buddhist meditation practices are techniques that encourage and develop concentration, clarity, emotional positivity, and a calm seeing of the true nature of things." That includes not only silent meditation, but they also have a walking meditation, as well as other cultures using this method "practiced between long periods of the sitting meditation [known as zazen, also known as kinhin (Chinese: 経行; pinyin: jīngxíng; Japanese pronunciation: kinhin, kyōgyō; Korean: gyeonghyaeng; Vietnamese: kinh hành)]. 

It doesn't really matter how others define meditation. As an Empath and Highly Sensitive, a regular practice of meditation can have even deeper benefits because we are so very sensitive. So it's important that we develop a practice. I think it's important that we don't put ourselves into a box in our thinking when it comes to how to meditate. We need to define a practice that truly supports us and works for us. It doesn't mean we have to sit in a corner and chant "ommmm" for a certain amount of time.

It does mean that we need to have regular practices that help us clear our mind, reduce our stress, and have an inward focus. 

Here are some "out-of-the-box" ideas to help you: 

• The Chinese believe you can replenish your Qi, life-force, by sitting under a tree. Find a tree that feels good to you and sit under it comfortably. Close your eyes and breathe into your belly slowly and clear your mind. 
• Do a personal energy clearing as defined by Jean Haner. I have found this type of energy work to be amazingly simple and effective. When I clear, as an Empath, I am able to identify the energy of another separate from mine. I am able to sit with it, hold a loving space for it, and allow it to rebalance. When I clear myself, I feel calmer. When I clear another, I also feel calmer and more connected to that person. It's an amazing resource for Empaths and Highly Sensitives, since we often struggle with what is ours and what is someone else's.
• Eat in a meditative way. Prepare a very healthy meal in your kitchen. Sit outside in the sun for 15 minutes and eat in nature while experiencing the taste, texture, and smell of the food. Find that "ahhhh" feeling as you eat. This is a great way to let go of stress, and nourish yourself mentally and physically. Throw in a few affirmations (ask me for a free guide on how to develop your own powerful affirmations) too. And by sitting in the sun for 15 minutes, you have taken in Vitamin D+ which is vital to your health as well.
• Take a walk on the wild side! Even if it's a walk in the park along a quiet path where you can see the lady bugs, watch the bees, or smell the wild flowers, it can be a great way to calm you mind and relieve stress. 
• Cultivating and balancing your Qi, the life-force and main idea of Chinese medicine, is called qigong. So take a qigong class, or practice qigong through YouTube or on your own (I'm not endorsing this group - just posting an example of what you can find). 
• Piddle around the house doing fun and light chores. For me, when I can manage a day of piddling without my husband or children in the home, I am in heaven! As an Emotional and Physical Empath, I love the separateness from others where I can just be in my own energy with nothing to do, no place to go and not having to be "on."  
• Take a mineral bath. I use dead sea minerals as my genetic profile is sensitive to sulfur, so doing straight Epson salt baths doesn't work for me. Light a candle, put on music or sit in the quiet and enjoy yourself. The physical support of the minerals can assist in healing any pain or physical discomfort you have, and this will also help to clear your mind.

I hope this gives you some useful and different ideas on how to meditate. As Empaths and Highly Sensitives, we really need to forge our own trail and find ways that work for us. An estimated 20% of the population according to Dr. Elaine Aaron's research, the mainstream ways of living don't often serve us well.

So how do you define meditation for you?

My dad, an avid reader and life-long learner, brought the book I'm OK--You're OK by Thomas Harris into our household in the 1970s, when I was in junior high. I remember it sitting next to his recliner and on his adjacent bookcase as he read it. I thought it was a funny name for a book, especially back then. I read it in my 20's.

According to Wikipedia, the book hit the New York Times Best Seller list in 1972 for about two years. The publisher estimates that it sold over 15 million copies so far and they translated it into more than a dozen languages. It's talks about Transactional Analysis, a form of conventional psychiatry.

What its popularity and longevity means to me, is that we humans have wrestled for years, maybe hundreds of years, with the concept of whether we are okay or not. And if others are okay. 

I believe that this is particularly true of Empaths. We Empaths are a sensitive breed loaded with intuition. No two of us are alike. Some of us sense feelings to a very deep level. Some sense the earth energies and its distress and joy. Some sense physical sensations of others - they feel them so deeply, it's often confusing as to who owns the physical sensation. There are Empaths that see colors and auras around other living things. Many Empaths can connect with spirits that have crossed over. Then we have the animal Empaths that can talk to and "feel" inside animals. And the Empaths that can see into the future, sometimes through dreams. We have Empath energy healers. The list goes on and on.

I believe, way back when when humans were more primitive, that we needed these Superpowers of intuition to survive. Bible stories talk of humans receiving intuitive information in dreams and through conversations with saints. Hunter gatherers needed to know if a predator, like a saber toothed tiger, waited for a meal in the adjacent field or valley.  They had to have a strong sense of where to hunt, and what plants to eat and not eat. They used these Superpowers without realizing they were an intuitive power.

As consciousness grew, there came a time when people with Superpowers, like healers and witches, were intensely feared. And it wasn't that long ago. Wikipedia compiled a list of people, men and women, executed for witchcraft.  The list shows how witches were convicted and executed in cruel ways all over the world for their Superpowers, considered evil, from the 1400's to as late as the 1800's. 

Take the story of Joan of Arc, a devout saint of God, who burned at the stake in May of 1431 for charges of heresy. After a long trial that lasted over a year, the courts convicted her of three major indictments. The first of these was that she used magic when she proclaimed to hear voices from St. Michael, St. Margaret, and St. Catherine. Today, she'd be considered a Medium.

I don't know if these people did evil deeds or not. I do believe, that to have these kinds of Superpowers, they were Empaths and/or highly sensitive. And their Superpowers, if displayed, got them tried and executed in cruel ways. 

Fast forward to 2018, and it's understandable that Empaths and highly sensitives are having difficulty embracing their intuitive Superpowers. 

It's time we take a courageous leap and truly be okay with ourselves. Stand up and say "I am an Empath and I am Okay." 

Yet, I see Empaths looking outside of themselves to ask if they are okay. The answer is not outside of us. We need to change our thinking. Being an Empath is okay. Being an Empath is more than okay, it's an honor and a privilege to have this Superpower. Being highly sensitive is a Superpower; information is power, and we pick up more information. So being a Highly Sensitive Empath is a magnificent honor.

Ask yourself. AM I OKAY WITH ME? When your unique sensitivity arises, do you shame yourself? Do you tell yourself you're odd, that you don't fit in? Do you wish you were different? What are you telling yourself?

This is such an important question. For if you don't accept yourself fully, than nobody will. Yet when you do accept yourself, you find like-minded people that love you for who you are.

So dear Highly Sensitive Empaths, your time has come to shine.

Take a moment right now to breathe in and out a few breaths. Slow and long and deep. And then ask yourself, "Do I fully accept myself as an Empath?" or "Do I fully accept myself as a Highly Sensitive Person?" If you get a no, you've got work to do!

Go to a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say "I am an Empath, and I am okay!" "I am Highly Sensitive and I love myself completely." Say it over and over until you believe it. Let the self-doubt, criticism, and negative thinking float away. And watch the magic unfold!

Our bodies are like our automobiles.

Let's say we have a Mercedes, just because it's a fun car to have! This Mercedes gets us from place to place. We drive it to the grocery store, work, out on our dates and family events, to the Crossfit gym or our yoga class, and to the farmer's market. We use it more than we walk. We've learned to count on it to get us around.

So if it's experiencing knocks and shakes, we investigate. Hopefully we'll do this sooner than later, so that we don't end up broken down on the side of the highway.

If we can't figure out what is causing the "symptoms," we take it to the mechanic to look over the whole car and give us a diagnosis and recommendation. They do a once over, typically, and let us know what parts in the system need upgrading, replacing, or fixing.

Suppose they say it's the fuel we're putting in our car that isn't working well enough. If you keep going to the gas station and putting in inappropriate fuel, or watering down the oil, and not giving your car the ingredients it needs, it’s going to keep running poorly even if the mechanic keeps diagnosing the symptoms, taking out and replacing parts, or prescribing additives in the gas and oil. It would be a lot more powerful for that Mercedes engine to have what it needs so it can do a good job and get us where we need to go.

Yet how many of us put inappropriate fuel into our bodies, which are our vehicles in life? We get the knocks and shakes, and have no idea how we created them. 

Here's the rub. We expect our body to function well enough to get to our Mercedes, climb into and out of it, and to get us to the grocery store, work, out on our dates and family events, to the Crossfit gym or our yoga class, and to the farmer's market.

Yet how can that beautiful body of ours carry us from place to place if it's not working well?

If we look at our bodies the same way as that magnificent Mercedes, and we notice that they’re not running well, what do we do? Do we run to the doctors and get a pill to take away the symptom so that we can keep going from place to place, or do we think about what we’re putting into our bodies. What thoughts are we thinking to feed it each day? What kind of food are we are using for fuel? And liquids? What kind of stress are we expecting our bodies to handle? Are we constantly going uphill and stressing our engines without a rest and then wondering why our engine is struggling?

In general, our culture does not respect the human body. We don’t really listen to them. They’re considered to be something we have to deal with, but this very body we're in is the one we chose in this lifetime to transport us until we leave.

Why is there so much fear about our bodies and what they’re saying to us?  We shake when we have a symptom. If we don’t know what to do and what causes it, we try to ignore it until it gets too big to ignore. Then we run to the doctor or the ER or the clinic, and ask them to fix it for us. Many times we get a pill, which can help us feel better. Or we have surgery to remove the "bad" part. 

These are certainly alternatives to be explored. But is it really fixing the root cause of the problem we're experiencing?

I’m here voting for the body. If we want to feel well, look and do our best, and have a nice long ride without breaking down or shaking, we need to do a much bit better job at listening to our bodies and giving them what they need.

And if we happen to be highly sensitive and/or an empath, the listening and responding we're doing must be amplified so we're providing a superstructure of support. We sense and feel more, so we need to ramp up the support.

I’m writing this on a day when I feel pretty crappy. I’m usually pretty good about having whole foods, avoiding grains, taking my supplements, getting enough rest, getting my exercise, taking quiet time, taking a positive approach, and avoiding sugar and flour. This is a plan I've put in place with my health coach and other professionals over the years that works the best for me.

It's no surprise in the last week, as I’ve been feeling more stress and putting things into my body, that I am experiencing some knocks and shakes. I am bloated and feel like I put on 5 pounds, I feel more gaseous, my thyroid seems to be feeling a little tighter right now. I feel more anxious, my mood is lower, I’m not sleeping as well, I’m craving the bad stuff, and this is all because I chose fuel that is not optimal for my body.

I'd say it's time for a change in our culture. How can we begin to truly listen to our bodies, accept what they're saying, develop a personalized plan to amp up the fuel we're providing for ourselves?  Then let's support each other, our differences, to keep choosing the good stuff, so that we keep our vehicle functioning the best it can until our ride is over?

​I'm in.

A thought that keeps coming up for me is, why are we, as humans on the planet in this day and age - okay with feeling mediocre? Physically mediocre?  

So many of us go through our days with aches and pains and just write if off as normal. We don’t have the energy we’d like to have, but we’ve been to the doctor and the test results came back within range. Or perhaps we received a diagnosis or two, and a prescription or two, to help whatever symptom we are experiencing. And maybe it’s helping, maybe it’s not. 

But the bottom line is, we really don’t feel that well each day. 

So, to make sense of it, we adopt attitudes like:

• I’m run down
• It’s in my genes and there is nothing I can do about it
• I don’t have time to deal with this
• I can’t trust my body
• I got the flu from the plane ride
• It’s the season for the flu
• I didn’t get a flu shot and I should’ve
• It’s because I’m getting old
• Someone at the grocery store had this cold and that’s why I got it
• I didn’t get enough sleep last night (or this week, or this month or this year)

We are noticing our aches and pains and making excuses for them instead of taking control and feeling 100% strong. The bottom line is that we, as a culture, have normalized not feeling well. 

I think the problem starts because we are so much into our heads. Our society admires being in our heads, pushing through, getting things done, staying focused on where we are going and what’s ahead.

So it’s no surprise that, when it comes to our bodies, we are focused on all the rules out there.  

We hear that we need to eat this food to have a certain result. Kale. Broccoli. Eggs. Meat. No meat. 

We hear that we need to exercise for so many minutes and with so much intensity to be healthy. 

We need to meditate for so many minutes each day to be fully present in our lives. And we need to get a certain amount of sleep. 

To top it off, there are lots of miracle fixes floating around out there in this age full of a lot of information everywhere we turn. 

We have instant access to loads of information like never before - through our phones, the TV, our computers, and the magazine and newspaper stands. And information is power, right? Yes, it is. I think increased information has certainly been helpful, even necessary, but it has gotten too complicated, and something very important is missing. 

The information we’re listening to is not the most powerful. The information on our phones is outside of ourselves. I believe the most powerful source of information is inside our own bodies.

We are all so different. What health looks like for me, doesn’t necessarily work for you. And what works for you, doesn't work for your husband. And what works for your husband, doesn’t work for your son. No two of us are alike. Health is not a cookie cutter solution with one size fits all.

What we feed ourselves - the foods, our thoughts, our environments, our beliefs, the stresses we encounter and the stories we attach to them, the very reasons we came onto this earth - all influence how our genes play out.

For instance, kale may be full of nutrients for a human body, but my human body has difficulty digesting it, so I better take that into consideration if I decide to have it. Eggs. Another one. I like the taste of eggs. Yet they are high in thiols (an organic sulfur compound), and my body can get backed up with thiols if I have too many. 

So I believe the solution to health is simple. Get out of your head and into your body. Look inside of yourself for the answers you’re seeking. For your strength. Inside is where our real power lies, and where we have collectively lost our way. 

Just how do we do this? The very first step is checking in with our physical bodies in a non-judgemental and non-fearful way. Noticing. Especially as empaths and highly sensitives, we most often disconnect from our bodies because the sensations are too intense or scary. Or we’ve had others judge us and we’ve shut off. We need to learn to feel safe in our bodies again.

Try this. Put your attention on our heart area right now. It may help to put your hand to this area. Take a few slow, deep breaths into your belly button. This moves our attention out of our mind and into our heart. If it takes you more than a few breaths to make this transition, it is worth the extra time. Do what intuitively feels right for you.

Next, put your attention to your physical body for a few minutes. You can do a body scan here, say from your toes to your head, to see what feels comfortable and good, and what feels out of whack. As you do this, just notice the information without getting too attached to it. 

It may go something like this. My feet, they really don’t have any feeling. Wait, they feel cold and a little tired. Then move onto your legs. That left knee if feeling a little achy, other than that, my legs feel good. Oooh, my tummy feels like it didn’t like what I ate for lunch. Continue to travel up the body to your head, noting what feels good and what doesn’t. Gather the information, and let it be. Be curious about any discomfort. You can even ask your body what it needs.

If you don’t get immediate sensations or feedback, keep working at it. Practice non-judgement and listening. Gather information. This creates awareness of your body and where you are at this very moment. It’s a great place to start.

How can we use our intuition to stay strong and live long?

I like to look at our ancestors for some hints and tips.

I love all the work that Mark Sisson puts into his blogs. Let’s look at some research from the training I’ve had through his Primal Blueprint work.

“Fossil records show that primal humans who steered clear of fatal misfortune could routinely live six or seven decades in excellent health. These records also show a ‘maximum observed life span’ of an astonishing 94 years!”

Mark refers to his primal fictional characters as Grok and Grokette, well-rounded athletes living off the land with it’s seasonal variations in food and terrain. Grok and Grokette could call upon superhuman bursts of strength or speed to save their lives when they had to. They could track a tired animal for hours so that they could catch their protein to eat. They ate mostly greens and fruits from their local area. They could climb trees to harvest fruit, carry heavy things so they could have water at their camps, and generally exhibit a well-rounded level of fitness that provided preparedness for a variety of situations.

In fact, these abilities of nutrition, strength and longevity don’t go that far back. In the 1800’s, my maternal Great Great Grandfather lived to be 105, and his wife to 103, both dying within 1 week of each other. They lived off the land - picking fruit from the trees. They moved their bodies everyday - gathering sticks for kindling to create the warmth for their fires. They went to bed with the chickens - so they also had pasture-raised hens! They lived in their tribes, often children stayed in the same town as they had their families, so there was a strong sense of community.

My paternal Great Great Grandmother stayed active until the end. She had climbed a large beech tree, from which she was lopping branches. From these branches she would make a bundle which she then carried home on her head. She slipped from the tree and fell onto a large rock, which led to her death.

They went about their days, grabbing something to eat from the land when they got hungry. If they couldn’t find food, they didn’t eat. They gathered supplies for their homes (which they built by hand) which required strength and agility. They chilled at night by talking to each other and relaxing in the quiet. They went to bed early and got up with the sun. They learned to use their sensitivities and intuition to assist them in staying alive and sustaining themselves.

Their lifestyle, although more rugged and “stressful” in some ways than ours today, supported their bodies in better ways. They didn’t grab an apple from a tree and think “I probably shouldn’t be eating this.”

Today, we’ve created the ability to travel around the world very easily. We’ve learned how to harvest food for the masses and are getting closer to wiping out hunger and starvation. We’ve harnessed the power of electricity. Our ancestors would be in awe to see what we’ve created in a few hundred years.

So what can we learn from our ancestors?

Keep life simple.

• Get outside every day.
• Spend daily time with loved ones.
• Eat off the land that is closest to you.
• Go to bed with the sunset and rise with the sunrise.
• Chill in the quiet daily.
• Do things for yourself that keep you active.
• And most importantly, listen to your body. It will guide you to ultimate health more than anything else on the planet.

That means,

• If you eat something that gives you an upset stomach, don’t eat it again, even if it’s kale and it should be good for you.
• If you drink something that makes you throw up, stop that, even if it’s milk which should be good for your body.
• If you get achy from the bread you just ate, throw out the loaf.
• If you think you shouldn’t be eating something, then you probably shouldn’t, so don’t.
• If you don’t feel well, spend some time thinking about what might be going on. Then respond to the thoughts you are getting; make changes.
• Let your hens run on the land so you have pastured eggs. They eat bugs, not corn.
• Know in your heart that you can feel strong everyday, strong enough to climb trees, fetch firewood, and walk up and down hills like your great, great grandparents did. Your strength is in there, you just need to support it.
• Accept the fact that you don’t have to ever be sick. Ever.
• Be curious about what isn’t working for you. And be ready to release it.

It is your right to feel good, everyday.

In this day and age, unlike our ancestors, we must pay attention to what we eat, and make conscious choices about how we life. On the upside, we have a choice where our ancestors did not. On the downside, industrialized processing methods, the abundance of sugar and flour, and the addictiveness of grains have thwarted our food supply. Our sedentary lives have made us weak.

We can no longer just reach for what is in front of us, whether it’s the donut or the remote, and assume it will keep us strong and healthy. It won’t.

It’s time to wake up, get up, and get strong to live long. The key to making this change, is getting really close and intimate with our own physical body, so we know what works for us and what doesn’t. Are you listening?

As empaths, many of us we experience the information around us through our bodies. Since we are so highly sensitive, we may come down with many symptoms as a result. So it's important for us to be fully connected to our physical bodies so we can understand what information we are receiving.

This is what I call the Body Buzz - knowing what our bodies are communicating to us throughout our days. Is the indigestion we feel a sensitivity to a food we ate, or is it being caused by the person next to us, or someone 300 miles away? Is our fatigue because we haven't had enough sleep, or because we are overloaded with sensing the technology around us? 

Here is a 5 minute video to help you with some ideas for understanding your Body Buzz. 

I was walking past my sleeping Mac one afternoon, and the work Superstructure scrolled across the display screen.

What an interesting word, and definition.

And it occurred to me right then and there, that a superstructure is exactly what every Empath needs.

As am Empath, we often spend our days dealing with energy and related physical symptoms because we don’t have a supportive, firm structure in place to keep us at our best. Perhaps we wake up one morning and are sobbing uncontrollably, yet nothing in our own life would cause such a deep reaction.

Our first thought is often “What is wrong with me? I shouldn’t be feeling this …” This thought starts the worry, the panic, and the weakening of our energy.  We may spend hours, the day or more trying to figure out what is going on, and often don’t look at ourselves very lovingly in the process. It’s downright hard to go through a confusing experience like this.

Yet, as we learn to know how we take in information as the Amazing Empath we are, perhaps a better initial thought would be one of curiosity “What am I picking up on? Let me explore this more. Is someone around me disowning his sadness? Did something just happen to a close friend and I am picking up on her feelings? How are the planets aligned right now? Hmmm, I’m curious about this feeling.”

With this approach, we are able to step back from being overwhelmed with sadness and the feelings we are experiencing. Then we have the opportunity to remove the judgement of ourselves, accept the information we’re getting, and see what it means for our day.

Since being an empath provides us with more information than the average Joe, not only do we pick up on extra information others don’t even experience, we also take in this information more deeply. Recent research shows that our brains light up more than that average Josephine.

And information is power. We can be at an advantage as we walk through our life on this planet if we learn how to embrace and empower this information.

Yet if we don’t have a strong system in place to manage all the information we’re getting in a positive and proactive way, it can leave us feeling worried, exhausted, hungry, overwhelmed, and depleted. How do we begin to create a superstructure of support for ourselves?

This is not an easy question because it is unique to every Empath. Just as the genes that make up our DNA provide us with a uniqueness, so do our sensitivities. Yet, I believe, first and foremost, each Empath must acknowledge her or his sensitivity and OWN IT. We must be able to see that we are sensitive, love it, and begin to understand it for the power that it is. It’s a power, not a curse.Yes, it is a power, not a curse.

I think being an empath and highly sensitive person starts here - with owning who we are - in a loving way. It’s often hard to love ourselves when we are feeling so overwhelmed and zinged around by life. We are ashamed to be an empath. Yet acceptance is the biggest first step we must take.

For the first part of my life, I thought something was terribly wrong with me, in fact, just about evil. I knew I was sensitive, and I had often heard those words in a critical tone. I wished I was different. And I was getting zinged around by all the information I received.

I had anxiety attacks in my 20’s. When I graduated from college, I knew it was from being in an ungrounded body during that transition. But other times, I wasn’t sure what brought them on.

I reacted to medication more easily – throwing up my daily vitamins if I took them on an empty stomach or getting dry heaves from antibiotics. I got high blood pressure readings at the doctor’s office. I often didn’t sleep well at night - noise really bothered me, yet I’d have amazing intuitive dreams that I knew contained spot on information. I got overstimulated easily not only from sugar and caffeine, but also other people. I could get so wired at a party, even when I was having a fabulous time, it could take me hours to calm down, or I’d spend the next day in bed wrestling with a strong headache and tons of anxiety adrenaline.

I’m talking in the past tense here, but I now deal with these sensitivities in a positive and proactive way. I've learned how to ground my body through my daily routines so that I can stay centered.

For example, I still don’t take vitamins on an empty stomach because that would be just plain stupid. Owning and supporting my sensitivity means I don’t do that – I’ve accepted that I’m sensitive in that way, and now that is okay with me.

I still get high BP readings at the doctor, especially with a new doctor, but not at my biofeedback nurse’s office where I am truly relaxed and centered. I rely more on the information from my biofeedback nurse because it’s a more accurate read of a resting blood pressure. I’ve learned to set up my health care in ways that work better for me.

I’ve made a commitment to nutrition and nourishment that strongly supports my body and mind. This is my superstructure on top of my intuitive foundation.

As empaths and sensitive people, we need to set a routine and structure in place that supports us and our bodies – this is what I mean by a superstructure. It’s that part of us – our day-to-day structure – that is built on top of our intuition and sensitivity.

Our superstructure acknowledges our core, our deepest part of ourselves, and rests on it. This structure supports and protects us in our day-to-day lives and enables us to truly thrive as an empath. We are no longer zinged around by others’ emotions, energy, or the moon and the stars. We are solid in ourselves, embracing our Empathic nature, and reaping the rewards of all it has to offer. 

Those pesky panic attacks.

It's that sudden intense fear where your heart is pounding out of your chest, your stomach  is in knots, you're breathing rapidly yet feeling like you can't get any air, you're shaking uncontrollably, and you don't want anyone to know! 

Check out my video blog to find out what you can do about it!