I was walking past my sleeping Mac one afternoon, and the work Superstructure scrolled across the display screen.
What an interesting word, and definition.
And it occurred to me right then and there, that a superstructure is exactly what every Empath needs.
As am Empath, we often spend our days dealing with energy and related physical symptoms because we don’t have a supportive, firm structure in place to keep us at our best. Perhaps we wake up one morning and are sobbing uncontrollably, yet nothing in our own life would cause such a deep reaction.
Our first thought is often “What is wrong with me? I shouldn’t be feeling this …” This thought starts the worry, the panic, and the weakening of our energy. We may spend hours, the day or more trying to figure out what is going on, and often don’t look at ourselves very lovingly in the process. It’s downright hard to go through a confusing experience like this.
Yet, as we learn to know how we take in information as the Amazing Empath we are, perhaps a better initial thought would be one of curiosity “What am I picking up on? Let me explore this more. Is someone around me disowning his sadness? Did something just happen to a close friend and I am picking up on her feelings? How are the planets aligned right now? Hmmm, I’m curious about this feeling.”
With this approach, we are able to step back from being overwhelmed with sadness and the feelings we are experiencing. Then we have the opportunity to remove the judgement of ourselves, accept the information we’re getting, and see what it means for our day.
Since being an empath provides us with more information than the average Joe, not only do we pick up on extra information others don’t even experience, we also take in this information more deeply. Recent research shows that our brains light up more than that average Josephine.
And information is power. We can be at an advantage as we walk through our life on this planet if we learn how to embrace and empower this information.
Yet if we don’t have a strong system in place to manage all the information we’re getting in a positive and proactive way, it can leave us feeling worried, exhausted, hungry, overwhelmed, and depleted. How do we begin to create a superstructure of support for ourselves?
This is not an easy question because it is unique to every Empath. Just as the genes that make up our DNA provide us with a uniqueness, so do our sensitivities. Yet, I believe, first and foremost, each Empath must acknowledge her or his sensitivity and OWN IT. We must be able to see that we are sensitive, love it, and begin to understand it for the power that it is. It’s a power, not a curse.Yes, it is a power, not a curse.
I think being an empath and highly sensitive person starts here - with owning who we are - in a loving way. It’s often hard to love ourselves when we are feeling so overwhelmed and zinged around by life. We are ashamed to be an empath. Yet acceptance is the biggest first step we must take.
For the first part of my life, I thought something was terribly wrong with me, in fact, just about evil. I knew I was sensitive, and I had often heard those words in a critical tone. I wished I was different. And I was getting zinged around by all the information I received.
I had anxiety attacks in my 20’s. When I graduated from college, I knew it was from being in an ungrounded body during that transition. But other times, I wasn’t sure what brought them on.
I reacted to medication more easily – throwing up my daily vitamins if I took them on an empty stomach or getting dry heaves from antibiotics. I got high blood pressure readings at the doctor’s office. I often didn’t sleep well at night - noise really bothered me, yet I’d have amazing intuitive dreams that I knew contained spot on information. I got overstimulated easily not only from sugar and caffeine, but also other people. I could get so wired at a party, even when I was having a fabulous time, it could take me hours to calm down, or I’d spend the next day in bed wrestling with a strong headache and tons of anxiety adrenaline.
I’m talking in the past tense here, but I now deal with these sensitivities in a positive and proactive way. I've learned how to ground my body through my daily routines so that I can stay centered.
For example, I still don’t take vitamins on an empty stomach because that would be just plain stupid. Owning and supporting my sensitivity means I don’t do that – I’ve accepted that I’m sensitive in that way, and now that is okay with me.
I still get high BP readings at the doctor, especially with a new doctor, but not at my biofeedback nurse’s office where I am truly relaxed and centered. I rely more on the information from my biofeedback nurse because it’s a more accurate read of a resting blood pressure. I’ve learned to set up my health care in ways that work better for me.
I’ve made a commitment to nutrition and nourishment that strongly supports my body and mind. This is my superstructure on top of my intuitive foundation.
As empaths and sensitive people, we need to set a routine and structure in place that supports us and our bodies – this is what I mean by a superstructure. It’s that part of us – our day-to-day structure – that is built on top of our intuition and sensitivity.
Our superstructure acknowledges our core, our deepest part of ourselves, and rests on it. This structure supports and protects us in our day-to-day lives and enables us to truly thrive as an empath. We are no longer zinged around by others’ emotions, energy, or the moon and the stars. We are solid in ourselves, embracing our Empathic nature, and reaping the rewards of all it has to offer.
Those pesky panic attacks.
It's that sudden intense fear where your heart is pounding out of your chest, your stomach is in knots, you're breathing rapidly yet feeling like you can't get any air, you're shaking uncontrollably, and you don't want anyone to know!
Check out my video blog to find out what you can do about it!
If there is one thing that I would say to sensitive people like me, it is to MOVE REGULARLY throughout each day.
We highly sensitive empaths are amazing beings at noticing more details and information around us than about 80% of the population.
Information is power. So we are very powerful human beings because we get more information WITHOUT EVEN TRYING! Even if we consciously try to pretend that we don't get this input, our bodies unconsciously KNOW that we do.
We are masters at sensing information. We are wired this way - from birth. This information comes to us through energy in the room, dreams, hunches and intuitive hits. And then, not only do we receive more information, we also FEEL this information on a deeper level. Our brains are more stimulated, according to Dr. Elaine Aron's research, and light up more as we receive the information. That means, we not only absorb information without knowing it (unless we work on being more aware), we often can get over-stimulated, resulting in feeling anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, and fatigued more easily. Before we know it, our heart is racing like we drank 5 cups of coffee, and we are in overload.
One of the best activities I have found to decompress and process this potential overload is regular exercise.
Now I used to think I needed to do a 100-mile bike ride to really be in good shape. Well, if you can train for and successfully do a 100-mile bike ride, you MAY BE in good shape. But you may be over-stressing your physical body, especially your cardiovascular system, and again, that can lead to overload.
I often recommend to clients to be in touch with their bodies and go by how they feel. Well, we are in such a fast-paced, get-er-done world, that the hints from our bodies can go unnoticed and are not heard. And we like science too. So - thanks to the availability of genetic testing (like from companies such as 23andMe), we can now see how we as individuals can benefit the most from exercise based on our genes.
My genetic results say that I am an elite power athlete, meaning that I am suited for sprinting, throwing, and jumping due to my muscles which have fast-twitch fibers.
Someone who can do that 100-mile bike ride successfully would be a person who has slow-twitch muscle fibers. Which is obviously not me.
So it makes sense that I would be so very exhausted and physically depleted at the end of these long rides, no matter how much I trained. It also makes sense that I can do an intense sprinting or power lifting session, and my eyes are sparkling like I just fell in love!
So back to being an empath.
Exercise should make your body feel good and relaxed. It should be aligned with you and your needs. It clears your mind, works the stress out of your muscles and organs, and can give you a feeling of "Ahhhh."
Now I'm not saying that an occasional amount of soreness and fatigue doesn't happen, particularly when you start a new exercise. I am saying that exercise can feel like a release and not a painful duty you have to do. It can feel fun, energizing and bring you peace of mind. It can help to balance your body to a more restful state by the end of the day. It can be incorporated into each day so that it becomes a way of life.
Some things I do:
What are some ways you move throughout your day?
At age 16, I planned out my suicide. What kept me from slitting my wrists in the tub in my foster home was the promise to my therapist that I’d be there the next week. Every session, she asked me to promise - one week at a time. She believed in me at a time when I absolutely hated myself. And for the first time in my life, I had accountability to someone else on the planet. She was the helping hand I needed in my most desperate hours.
Over the years, I kept working with others -- therapists, doctors, and coaches -- to get different viewpoints. I totally love my healthcare team. I worked through my darkest secrets with therapists to heal my emotional wounds. I worked with a health coach to use nutrition and exercise to heal my body and brain. I worked with doctors, asking them to validate my physical sensations. I tried pharmaceutical drugs for anxiety, and eventually moved away from them towards nutritional supplements. I attended different churches and 12-step groups. I have learned energy work and clearing. So I have always been a lifetime learner, open and receptive to new ways of doing things.
Yet for many years, I seemed to be looking outside for others to tell me that I was normal, I was okay. And they did. For that I am grateful.
What it boils down to, though, is that I have tried many systems to accept myself. But something always told me that I was different. I always felt that something was wrong with me. That I was weird.
At the same time, since I was a child, I believed - and I’m not sure why - that there had to be a better way in life. One that didn’t feel so odd, and hard. That belief of a better way, always my drive and passion, led me to begin an inward journey for answers.
Then one day, I picked up a blue book that said, “If you change your thoughts, you can change your life.” That’s when I began applying the work of Louise Hay to change my mindset. As I changed my mindset, I transformed my life in ways that I didn’t believe possible.
And eventually I realized I was an empath. Of course, I had known all along that I was sensitive. As a young child, I had heard that phrase - “too sensitive” - in a critical tone.
And I FELT sensitive. I could feel a shudder through my whole body when I saw a sibling cut a finger. I got easily overwhelmed and anxious, especially at the mall. There was even a time when I felt afraid to leave the house without my xanax. I would violently shake when a major event happened. I felt tummy aches to many foods I ate, even though I was trying to eat healthy. OF COURSE there was something wrong with me. These things were not normal.
And then I found out about Empaths, and I knew I was one. And I started to embrace my sensitive side. These things are normal if you’re an empath.
You see, I’ve been an empath - and intuitive - since I came onto the planet. My mom used to call my right eye my “lazy eye,” as my left eye is wider. According to Chinese medicine, when the left eye is held wider than the right, it reveals that someone is noticing more than others may realize. And I have noticed things more deeply and way ahead of time than others for my whole life. On some level I knew this. But several years ago, I walked out of the fog. I realized that I was given this awareness and sensitivity for a reason. It’s in my face. So, I adopted my intuition. It’s been there all along, I just didn’t know what to do with it. It’s been a process of acceptance, learning how to support myself, and now, there is no going back.
So now I think my intuition is awesome. It’s amazing. It’s powerful. And I have learned how to support it energetically and through my nutrition. I have a lifestyle that keeps me feeling grounded and the energies around me affected me less. Of course I still sense and feel them, but I know what to do so they don’t cause me problems. The anxiety I had struggled with for so many years has become a memory instead of a way of life.
I couldn’t have discovered my path and my empathy without the help of my tribe. The process has been painful at times, yet very rewarding. To my coaches and therapists, 12-step groups and certifications, I am grateful, for they have helped me make the changes I needed to make to find my joy.
Now, I am passionate about helping you. I want to empower you to get you off your butt and make the changes that you need to be a GROUNDED AND JOYFUL YOU. I want to give you ideas that you may not have thought of before to get you to where you want to go. I am passionate about walking with you to develop a personalized system so that you are not battered around by your sensitivities. They are on your side. So am I. So let's get started.
I often get asked (well, not really, but it sounded like a good opening line!), “Why Should I Hire a Coach?”
I’m not talking about hiring a coach for an athletic endeavor or to pass a class.
I’m talking about hiring a lifestyle coach.
Have you ever felt like your lifestyle isn’t working for you?
Take the Lifestyle Adjustment quiz below – answer YES or NO to each one:
If you answered NO to many of these questions, you probably need a lifestyle adjustment.
But Why Hire a Coach?
Let’s ask this question - how long have you been saying to yourself that you need to make some changes? What is getting in your way? Do you know?
This is why I think coaching makes a huge difference.
I have worked with a health coach for the last few years. This relationship helps me more than I could have imagined.
She has listened to my saga, frustrations, and challenges with kindness and enthusiasm. And she has introduced me to ideas, strategies, and habits that I would not have known about otherwise. She has gotten me in touch with parts of myself that are a vital part of me, that I wasn’t acknowledging. With her help, I have made huge progress towards more joy and productivity in my life. Coaching has been well worth the commitment and expense.
So, I invite you to consider hiring a coach (me, that is!)
As your coach, I will listen to you. I will help you discover what isn’t working for you. I will empower you by figuring out all the little nuances that you can’t see on your own that are blocking you from your happiest, most energetic and joyful you. Together we will walk down that path, learning how to make your lifestyle the best it can be, so that you really enjoy your time on this planet.
I am ready for you! Are you ready for me? I have some openings in January and February.
Please message me if you would like to find out more.
According to the Free Dictionary by Farlex, energy work means "techniques originating from ancient traditions and recent discoveries that are used to manipulate the bioenergy of the patient with the goal of restoring harmony or removing blockages from within the body. See also qi gong, reiki, qi, and prana." [Jonas: Mosby's Dictionary of Complementary and Alternative Medicine. (c) 2005, Elsevier.]
Why is energy work so important for people with the sensitivity trait? Because whether we realize it yet or not, most of us are very sensitive to energy. We sense it easily, feel it more deeply, and often hold onto it longer than others around us.
For example, we may walk into a room of someone's home, and it feels strangely dark, cold, and out of sorts to us, even though that may not match the situation. Perhaps it is noon on a hot day, and we walk in sensing this uneasiness. We may not pay attention to it, or think that we may be crazy or interpreting things wrong. But most likely we are not.
We are sensing residues of energy that have been deposited in the room by previous occupants. Perhaps there were some occupants that were feeling stressed about their relationship and arguing over some chronic issues. Or someone studied in the room as they worried about passing graduate school classes need to secure a doctorate. Whatever the stress, this energy can build up like invisible house dust, accumulating over time and causing a space to feel stagnant, dark, cold and unwelcoming.
Then we walk in the room and we are smack, dab in the middle of the stressful soup without our left brain even knowing it. Ahhh, but our right brain does. Much like our ancestors needed to know that a saber tooth tiger, a predator, hid in the tree near the adjoining field, we sense the disturbance. Imagine if our ancestors didn't know until they happened on the tiger that it was even there; what would be the chance of our survival as a species? It's much better to sense the energy intuitively from far away, than to have to be right under the saber tooth tiger before we know it's there.
So yes, our right brains, our intuitive side, KNOWS. Yet we have lost touch with this sensitivity as we have developed the conveniences of our industrialized world. We have discounted them, rushed past them, failed to trust them, and downright ignored them.
Yet we are still picking up on this energy every day. So it's important to tune in and let go of the stresses.
Thankfully we are in a time on the planet where there are many forms of energy work that may help sensitive people to rebalance. Reiki, kinesiology, chiropractic, craniosacral therapy work, tapping, EFT, massage, Qi Gong, yoga, meditation (active and passive), and the list goes on; just Google energy work and you'll come up with all kinds of opportunities to try.
I have been learning a technique that works quite well in our modern day world to clear stressful energy. It's Energy Clearing for People & Places taught by Jean Haner. It allows me to use tools to tune into my intuition - a pendulum and a dowsing rod - so that I can more clearly find the stressed energy affecting a space, or myself, and allow it lovingly to dissipate.
It's important to find ways to identify the invisible stresses around us, and to help them dissipate. We came to the planet with our sensitivity; part of self-care is learning to embrace it, support it, and keep balanced. How are you doing with this?
Sensitive people are, well, sensitive. Duh! That seems so completely obvious, yet I find many of us, including myself, don't always honor that sensitivity in our daily choices. Or we regret being sensitive because it's oh so inconvenient.
Yet, it is what it is, so we might as well embrace it so that we can live our best, healthiest life.
I am sensitive to caffeine, as many sensitive people are, yet I LOVE coffee. Decaf just isn't the same. So, I've wrestled with this for many years, sometimes drinking only decaf, sometimes drinking too much caffeine and regretting it, sometimes going off coffee all together.
I'll never forget the awareness I gained about my sensitivity during one of my breaks from caffeine and coffee. As a New Year's resolution, I gave up coffee and did a cleanse, drinking Essiac tea to clean out my liver, eating vegetables, fruits, meat, fish and nuts, and eliminating grains, coffee, dairy, etc. from my foods. After an initial rough week with headaches, fatigue, and the general blahs, I started feeling much better. Then I was out shopping and decided to take a sampling off coffee. I could not believe how quickly I felt the caffeine, or that I even felt it at all. Oh, my gosh, only 2 ounces, I thought to myself. I wasn't feeling that good about that side of my sensitivity. Lesson learned.
And then there was the time when I was in my 20's and living in an apartment with a couple of roommates. I came down with something that the doctor felt that antibiotics would handle. And did I get handled. I went on a standard dose of tetracycline, and after a couple of doses, I ended up with dry heaves. Or the time I had period cramps so severe, the doctor recommended a prescription dose of ibuprofen. Walking along Dewey Beach with my friends, I felt so high - from ibuprofen! - that I didn't think my feet were touching the sand. This was clearly another sign of my sensitivity. Lessons learned.
So here we sensitives are, walking the earth, and feeling completely overstimulated in many ways. We can respond so strongly to ANY stimuli that it makes it a challenge to approach new experiences with open arms. And I think that is okay. It's important to be purposeful and cautious.
One way of self-care is to acknowledge our sensitivity and what that means to each of us.
For me, I must watch anything that has caffeine or a stimulant in it (and that includes chocolate and sugar), or I can get heart palpitations, lay awake all night, or be on edge for hours. I need to watch any medications; I start out slowly with them and build - if necessary, to make sure I'm not having a reaction. I will also explain my sensitivity to doctors, and let them know that I want the lowest effective dose - like something they would give to children. I need to watch supplements too, that they don't give me adverse effects as I adjust to them. I am careful with my foods, for if I eat something that my body doesn't agree with, I can be affected for a couple of days.
I believe it's so important for sensitive people to choose anything we put into our bodies wisely; that means from the water we drink, to the prescriptions and supplements we take, to the food and snacks we indulge in, and to the thoughts we think. We need to do this because we are affected by them more than most.
What is the upside of being so sensitive?
It's so important to keep these positives in mind.
For me, whatever I take in, I experience deeply. I am keenly aware of events around me; I can pick up on nuances. My feedback to others hits "the nail on the head" because I am so sensitive. In fact, I "see" things that many of my colleagues don't, and I can get a gut feel of the impacts these things can have in the future. I don't have to work at this; I allow my sensitivity to guide me. This skill helps me on business teams to hone in on what the team is doing that is and isn't working for them; I can then give feedback that is "right on" for how they can move forward to accomplish their goals. Teams have told me that I have valuable ideas. I have also won corporate awards for my ideas and my insights.
When I eat, drink, or ingest anything, my body gives me immediate feedback through symptoms. I may have been like the ancestors that foraged for berries and vegetables for the tribe because I could tell what would make the tribe sick, and what would be okay to eat. Today, this sensitivity helps me to choose wisely. It's not that I need to eat healthier than my spouse or my neighbor (although it can feel like that!) We all need to be eating healthy. I CHOOSE to eat wisely because I have the feedback, through my sensitivity, to make these choices. Less sensitive people may not know that certain foods or medications are bothering them because their feedback system isn't as fine-tuned as mine.
As a coach, I can tap into the other person naturally. I find that I can ask meaningful questions that help my client think about what's going on and come up with solutions. This connection with my client usually feels supportive to him; the increased awareness can help her move towards her goals and dreams.
Take a moment to think of the ways you are sensitive. Are you supporting yourself in the best ways possible? And how does this sensitivity benefit you?
Sensitive people have many amazing skills which can translate to tremendous success in the workplace.
They often have an intuitive sense that can easily become an asset. They also "see" or sense information that their colleagues don't notice, which makes them good at picking up trends and following hunches that can lead to incredible breakthroughs or strategies. They may have hunches about future events, and if they use that information, it can give them a competitive edge.
STRESSFUL DAYS. With these amazing assets, which can clearly give any business an advantage, why does the workplace often feel like a stressful place for sensitive people?
There are several reasons.
STRATEGIES. As sensitive people, we must take charge of our health, and that includes creating workplaces where we can thrive.
Here are some ideas that can get you started:
And if you've tried all of these ideas, and find that your workplace continues to be too stressful, you may need to create a better job!
As a teenager growing up in an alcoholic home, I never learned to relax. With seven (7) brothers and sisters running around the house on a Saturday morning, I used to think "Ugh, can't it just be quiet!" By the time I graduated college, I began to experience anxiety attacks. The normal stress of being a teenager, going to college, and approaching graduating had taken a toll on my physical body.
However, I thought it was emotional, you know, the stress of graduating and going out on my own to find a job. So I did therapy and saw a doctor, leaving with a prescription of muscle relaxers to keep from hyperventilating, and prescription antacids to calm my stomach. After several years of therapy, changing my thinking, taking these prescriptions, and gaining confidence in my new life, I stopped the xanax (with many unpleasant and weird withdrawal symptoms.)
Yet, I have struggled with anxiety my entire life. I did biofeedback (highly recommend) to help me learn how to relax. Yet there were times when the anxiety seemed to just take over. I wasn't aware of having a thought or worry that caused it, but I felt like my body pumped up my heart rate and adrenaline for no reason.
Five (5) years ago, I joined Food Addictions Anonymous (FA) for two (2) years to eliminate flour, sugar, and alcohol. I felt so much better and lost my excess weight. Yet I still felt craving on a physical level. I wasn't sure why. The rigidity of the FA program, which called for you to follow someone else's guidelines instead of your body's needs, also left me feeling like there had to be a better way. So my search led me to work with a spiritual health coach.
This decision began my journey into the mineral world. At first, I didn't want to do anything that had to do with taking vitamins or supplements. I had tried them many times based on recommendations from professionals, and it didn't feel helpful. So it took me several months of coaching to be open to getting a mineral test.
Once I did, I really started to get heal.
Minerals ground our bodies. When important minerals are too low or too high - out of balance - our bodies experience physical highs and lows. Since each person is an experiment of one (we all eat, think, move, drink, medicate, and rest differently), it's important to listen closely to our bodies for guidance in finding our optimal health.
So my journey began.
As part of my work, I did a Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis (HTMA), a screening test that measures the levels of 21+ minerals in hair tissue. I found out that my minerals were out of balance. And, not surprising, magnesium, which is like an ambassador in our cells, was very low for me.
Low magnesium is the source of many of today's health issues. You can look at the stages of low magnesium and the typical symptoms associated with it on Morley Robbins' website. It is full of research about and resources for magnesium and how it works with other minerals (cofactors) to keep our bodies running (or not) like a healthy (or not) machine. You can even find out About Morley, and his partner, Dr. Liz, and how they got involved in helping others discover their mineral imbalances and how to correct them.
What I discovered: Even though I eat organic, whole foods, they aren't full of minerals like those of our ancestors. It's almost impossible to get the required minerals from our industrialized farmlands. And with our fast-paced lifestyles filled with processed foods, prescriptions drugs, sugar/flour/alcohol, electronics and magnetic fields, plane travel, and more, our minerals get depleted faster than we can ingest them.
As I corrected my magnesium and other base minerals over several months, my anxiety attacks WENT AWAY - totally. My heart palpitations resolved. My mind calmed and I worried less. I became less susceptible to energy disturbances. At almost 60 years of age, I have a secure, solid feeling inside of me because I now know how to physically ground my body. I no longer fear panick attacks because I don't get them anymore. If only I'd known that I could feel this physically grounded when I was 20!
As a sensitive person, this physical grounding is very important because we feel things more deeply than others. We feel them more deeply emotionally, and physically. This level of response can zing our system around, leaving us feeling frazzled and overwhelmed. But with the minerals, the information can come by us and keep on moving because our bodies are grounded and don't overreact to something that is not ours.
So when I seem nuts about magnesium and its supporting minerals, well, you can see why! And I would love to help you find out how to ground yourself too. It's amazing!
Until next time, Be Kind to Yourself.
I'm not one to put out there much what I believe and how I feel. I thought I'd change that today as I feel called to address the wave of uncertainty in the United States of America today.
I can totally understand people's feelings of dismay and concern today about politics as usual. I share many of your concerns. Even if some of the events that are happening could be good for our country, the administration is moving way too quickly, and not listening to the diversity of ideas outside of their closed circles. They are shutting out a lot of good people who can help them move forward in amazing ways. They even want to silence the media!
It seems like the legislature has their own agenda and they don't want to entertain any diversity of opinions. They aren't open to listening. They think they are right. They are a cabinet of white, rich people that are taking too much power into their hands, and not representing who hired/elected them. I don't feel they have the average American's perspectives at heart because they haven't walked in our shoes.
CHANGE IS GOOD. I'm all for progressive change. I've been changing myself since I landed on the planet. And I am a life-long learner. But I don't have confidence that the current administration cares about We The People.
They haven't attended public schools, or struggled to get their children through college. They haven't had to face the disappointment of not being able to send a child to college because they didn't have the money. They don't have to worry about finding health insurance, making co-pays, or not having insurance. They have beefed up benefits plans for vacations, holidays, sick leave, retirement, and more. How could they possibly know what it's like to be an American?
Cutting government programs and getting our spending balanced is very important. Certainly, finding this economic balance has been an issue as long as I remember. Yet, pulling the rug out from under those systems of support is not the answer. Having a systematic approach to change, where it's communicated clearly, everyone understands it, and it happens over time - that's the best approach to keep most of us on board.
For example, what is the alternative to the EPA? Perhaps many people don't believe in the environmental stress that is happening, but most Americans do. So why should the minority be setting the plans? If the EPA isn't the most efficient system, what will take its place?
What is the alternative to Planned Parenthood? It's has supported many women with planning families and maintaining health care that they couldn't afford, regardless of the abortion clientele its served. Abortion is such a personal event, and not an easy one for any woman that I have known that has had to make that decision. Let's leave that discussion out of this topic, since way more babies have been prevented than aborted through Planned Parenthood services.
To support women's health care, perhaps we move systematically to give Planned Parenthood time to integrate into the Affordable Care Act? Or to find funding in other ways. But if we quickly get rid of both programs, what choices does that leave the millions of women, and Americans, for their healthcare?
THE POSITIVE APPROACH. Somehow we must take a positive approach. What is happening now will fuel the greatest grassroots movements in history. What is happening feels awful to most of the people that I know; and many people are getting involved. Let's keep our involvement peaceful, as that is the most powerful. And let's take the high road always, no matter how mean others may seem.
I'm involved in what I care about in ways that I have never been. Donations. Marches. Contacting legislature by phone and email. Using my power and my voice.
OUR POWER. We are all connected; every person in power in DC is a friend, a family member, a parent, a neighbor, or a co-worker to someone else that is not in power. And our thoughts create our world. So, let's consider - how did we create this mess?
The tough questions:
- How do we avoid listening to others with differing opinions?
- Are there ways we are following our own agendas and don't want to hear what someone else believes or thinks?
- Are we name calling and being hurtful when someone doesn't agree with us?
- Do we deny there is a difference and just go about our agenda?
- How are we limited in our thinking?
- Are we owning our power in healthy ways, or giving it away to others?
What questions did I miss?
We have elected and created this body of people that are running this country. We are amid a big wake up call. We are being watched world-wide.
We need to stop depending on our government to take care of us. We need to take care of ourselves. Take our power back. I believe that, once these huge issues are resolved, things will move ahead in beautiful and powerful ways, better than we ever could have imagined. Yet I see many dark days ahead to get to that place.
I believe, out of this tragedy, great good will come. It will be a while, but I already see it. I see a power in our people, peacefully, that I didn't know was there. People are over the country are joining together to have a voice in what matters to them.
THE SENSITIVE TRAIT. This is a particularly difficult time for highly sensitive people, who feel and experiences life so deeply.
Here are some strategies to help you navigate these unprecedented times:
Until next time, Be Kind to Yourself. [It starts with you, inside of you!]
Transform Your Life as an Empath;
Personalized Strategies for Sensitive People
True joy comes only when we have learned to embrace the very parts of ourselves that we'd love to be rid of - the parts of ourselves that we so desperately want to hide. Have you learned to love and embrace this part of yourself, and better yet, see the power in it?